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Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb (Book Review)

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If you’re looking for a new book, consider Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb.

To be completely honest, I’ve never been drawn to motivational/self-help books, so this was a surprisingly great read. I understand why people appreciate them, but personally, I always thought that they were a bit dull for my taste. I figured that if I was going to read something, I would rather it be a story about some faraway land or a critique of a post-apocalyptic society that vaguely resembled ours. To me, reading is more of an escape from life’s worries than a method of examining them. In fact, I had purposefully avoided the psychology sections of bookstores and libraries because I was entirely sure that nothing there would interest me— which is why it made no sense for me to pick up Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb.

I first found this book through a video I saw online that praised it as ‘one of the top ten books of the year.’ I had been looking for reading suggestions and felt that my recent fantasy selections were repetitive. What drew me into this book was the premise of it: a therapist experiences an event that changes the trajectory of her life so she starts attending therapy herself. This book, unlike other self-help books, came across as extremely genuine to me. Gottlieb is transparent with her audience about the way she feels (including her honest opinions of her patients) which makes her seem more like a friend telling you about her life than some omniscient therapy guru. She doesn’t claim to have all of the answers, nor does she put on a brave face for her audience, and she openly admits that she is wracked with anxiety and regret over the fact that she has lived almost half of her life by now yet barely gotten to experience the joys of motherhood. From Gottlieb’s perspective, we get to see how four of her patients, each with extremely complex and beautiful lives, deal with their struggles.

This unique writing strategy of interweaving stories from her own life with her patients’ keeps the reader on the edge of their seat. Just as a massive detail in one patient’s life is revealed, we are introduced to a memory from Gottlieb’s life that makes us see her in a new manner. These parallels between the patients and herself show how even authority figures who may seem to have life “figured out” still struggle themselves. For example, she had a plethora of career changes: first working on television sets, then finding her interest in medicine and studying at Stanford Medical School, then finally becoming a therapist. Having so many different perspectives helps her pull in knowledge to understand and provide care for her patients, care which she herself needs.

Gottlieb seeks therapy following an abrupt end to her relationship with her partner (whom she only refers to as ‘boyfriend.’) The casual manner in which he breaks up with her is shocking, but what she struggles with the most is his reason for leaving: despite being a father figure to Gottlieb’s son for years, he decided that he couldn’t handle the burden of children. Over the course of many sessions, she progresses through the five stages of grief and reflects on her past relationship.

Denial: The end of their relationship doesn’t feel real to her. She is convinced that he will call her at any moment with the realization that everything was a mistake and ask for her back.

Anger: Gottlieb berates ‘boyfriend’ in her therapy sessions, attacking him for being inconsiderate and his treatment of her. This stage seems to last the longest, and she occasionally relapses into anger.

Bargaining: Sometime after the breakup, she calls him and demands a better explanation for his actions (and takes notes to share with her therapist). However, bargaining only makes her angrier because no explanation will justify his actions.

Depression: Gottlieb experiences depression over her lost relationship, which her therapist suggests is part of a larger, more hidden feeling. Through their sessions, she discovers that her depression stems from a larger insecurity about not having enough time left in life for her to become a mother and pursue a family. ‘Boyfriend’ was part of this family, which is why the breakup triggered this reaction in her.

Acceptance: Finally, after much soul-searching, Gottlieb concluded that there was no reason to obsess about being behind in life when she could instead put her efforts into more productive things, such as being a mother, therapist, and writer.

After her final therapy session, she finally found peace in knowing that her fear of “running out of time” was all in her head. Gottlieb ends the novel by telling the reader to focus more on the present and less on the future and further elaborates that life continues to go on no matter what we do. This advice had a great impact on me because I could tell from her life experiences and progression through grief that she knows what these feelings are like. Her vulnerability with the reader transformed my perspective on mindfulness books, and I am excited to explore this genre further!

Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb is available for checkout from the Mission Viejo Library. It can also be downloaded from Libby. 

Fast Food Nation Book Review

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“Twenty years ago, teenage boys in the United States drank twice as much milk as soda; now they drink twice as much soda as milk.” ~ Eric Schlosser

So, let’s talk about Fast Food Nation by Eric Schlosser. This book rips off the veneer and presents some harsh realities for anyone who has ever wondered what actually goes on behind the neon-lit drive-thrus and golden arches. The system that supports the fast food industry, from factory farms and worker exploitation to the hazardous meatpacking industry and the horrifying realities of food production, is more than just greasy food.

Schlosser delves deeply into how fast food spread around the world, influencing not only what we eat but also how we work, how we farm, and even how we view convenience. Indeed, there are some really unsettling parts of it. He reveals how fast food companies use marketing to target children, the hazardous working conditions in slaughterhouses, and how the industry’s drive for efficiency frequently comes at the expense of public health. Warning: You may want to reconsider your next burger.

What I appreciate about this book is that it’s not just a hit piece on McDonald’s (though they do take some heat). Schlosser connects the dots between corporate greed, government policy, and the way our food system has evolved into something pretty unrecognizable from the farms of the past. It’s like The Jungle but for modern times.

Is it enjoyable to read? Not precisely. However, it’s captivating. Schlosser blends factual information with true stories to give everything a personal touch, writing like a journalist who has done their research. This book is worth reading if you’re interested in environmental and public health issues or simply want to understand what’s actually in your food. But fair warning: It might not be a good idea to pick it up just before lunch.

Would I recommend it? Yeah, but with a warning: once you know this stuff, you can’t un-know it.

Fast Food Nation by Eric Schlosser is available for checkout from the Mission Viejo Library. It can also be downloaded from Libby.

Poached: Inside the Dark World of Wildlife Trafficking

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Recently, I read a book called Poached: Inside the Dark World of Wildlife Trafficking. It was written by Rachel Love Nuwer, and it explores the illegal wildlife trade. Wildlife trafficking is  a crime that involves the illegal trading of animals, plants, and their products. I found this book both interesting and informative. 

In Poached, the author explores a variety of aspects of the illegal wildlife trade—literally! She travels to foreign countries such as Vietnam and China and interviews poachers, sellers, and buyers; exploring the issue of wildlife trafficking from all angles. This is a book that really emphasizes the human side of the issue. Nuwer focuses on individual people and their role in wildlife trafficking. Zooming in allowed me to get a deeper, more personal look at one of the world’s most profitable crimes. 

One thing I loved about this book is that Nuwer avoids oversimplifying the issue. While some may have taken a black-and-white approach, she treats the issue delicately and acknowledges the variety of factors that contribute to trade. Different financial and cultural aspects contribute heavily to wildlife trafficking. The fact that someone may participate in the illegal wildlife trade does not necessarily correlate with their individual character. For example, Nuwer speaks to a poacher in a rural part of Vietnam suffering from acidic water and soil, frequent fires, and low spirits. People in this area often make less than $1,000 a year. This particular poacher chose the profession due to the relatively high monetary potential in order to support his family. However, he does not enjoy his job. He often suffers from bouts of malaria and wishes he could do something else, “Eleven to thirteen dollars per trip [as a forest guide], and I’d quit hunting” (p. 21).

Overall, I would recommend this read to anyone who loves wildlife, is interested in conservation, or is just looking for an informative read.

Poached: Inside the Dark World of Wildlife Trafficking by Rachel Love Nuwer is available for checkout from the Mission Viejo Library.

Anne Frank–The Diary of a Young Girl

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On a spring day in May, in the year 1940, German Nazis stormed the Netherlands. The persecution of Jews quickly escalated, forcing many Jews to evacuate or go underground. One family, the Franks, went into hiding like thousands of others. Anne Frank is known for writing a diary that captured the horrors of World War II and her experience underground.

Reading this book, or diary, was exceedingly somber. In her diary, Anne highlights the constant fear, boredom, hunger, and threat of living life as a Jew. Despite the seriousness of the situation Anne is in, readers notice how cheerful and clever she is. Although she is put in the worst situation possible, Anne continues her fight for life in her ambitions to learn and become a writer. Even though she died as a young woman, she is a significant symbol of life, dreams, and the future. After reading this novel, I’ll admit that I was humbled to take everyday life for granted. Anne Frank’s Dairy is a wonderful commentary that is filled with her amusing, inspirational, and courageous thoughts that touched the hearts of millions.

November 1, 1944, was Anne’s last journal entry; the reason for the discovery of her family is kept as a long-lost mystery. One of her lasting passages reads, “I still believe, in spite of everything, that people are truly good at heart,” showing the depth of her optimism regardless of her circumstances (Frank). 

Anne Frank’s Diary is a masterpiece that everyone should read once in their lifetime.

The Diary of a Young Girl by Anne Frank is available to checkout from the Mission Viejo Library. It is also available to download for free from Libby.

Book Review: A Growth Mindset for Teens

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A Growth Mindset for Teens by Sydney Sheppard offers an empowering guide for teenagers transitioning from teen to young adulthood. Addressing the pressures of school, relationships, family, and societal expectations, this book is a lifesaver for me and those overwhelmed by uncertainty and self-doubt.

This book emphasizes the universal struggle that’s experienced by millions of young people. There are times in our lives when we feel anxiety and inadequacy; realizing we are not alone in our inadequacy really helps empower us. A Grow Mindset for Teens breaks down the concept of a growth mindset by comparing and contrasting it with a fixed mindset. Understanding differences, myths, and facts provide a powerful catalyst for change.

The book’s practical approach is its strength. The author provides many strategies for developing resilience and persistence, making the readers feel it’s all possible.

The neuroplasticity and cognitive reframing section offers readers concrete methods to rewire their thinking patterns and mindsets. Self-compassion, empathy, and gratitude introduce a holistic approach to personal growth, reminding readers that emotional well-being and mental work are equally important.

The 31-day growth mindset is a great challenge, making the journey interactive and engaging for me. I’m sure other teen readers as well. The book encourages readers to do uncomfortable things and step away from their family and friends. The discussion fosters a sense of community and gives the readers a sense of reinforcement for the concept learned. Also, growth is experienced as a collaboration between self and community.  

I like the author’s supportive tone, which helps me to feel reassured, supportive, and motivational throughout the book. t makes me feel like a mentor is guiding me throughout the book.

A Grow Mindset encourages readers to take ownership of their growth journey. This promotes and provides young people with a skill set to be more confident and open-minded to transition from teen to more mature young adult.

The book’s message is clear: What you think you will see. Our thinking will shape your reality.

I highly recommend this book, A Grow Mindset for Teens, as it is an invaluable resource and lessens my doubt about the complexities of emerging into the adult world. This book gives practical advice that equips us as young readers with the skills we need to thrive. Let’s Turn fear into empowerment, confidence, and breakthrough. A Grow Mindset for Teens is about confidently becoming the best version of yourself.

Let’s grow!

Bella H.

Book Review: Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance by Angela Duckworth

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A friend in AP Psychology recently recommended I read this book, as another one of his classmates recommended it to him, and he really enjoyed it. Personally, I could say the same about my experience with this book, as it really gave me a new perspective on how the human mind works.

Grit starts off by introducing the theory of grit itself, by describing studies by psychologists on West Point candidates. The book starts off by describing the first grueling 6 weeks of what is known as “Beast”, an additional layer of selection that West Point uses to weed out candidates. The author starts by mentioning research done during the 1950s by an earlier psychiatrist who also turned out to be one of Duckworth’s professors during her time at university.

Later in the book, Duckworth goes on to explain the phenomenon of grit by taking a look at people from all walks of life; Whether it be students, business owners, CEOs, or teachers, Duckworth notes that of the people in these fields, the one with grit tend to be the most successful. In looking at a program called Teach for America, Duckworth discovered that the teachers who were grittier were generally more optimistic, which correlated with better student performance and academic gains.

I don’t want to spoil more about the other cases that Duckworth discusses in the book because she can definitely explain it better than I can. I really enjoyed this book because it was life-changing, serving as a more scientific and thorough approach to looking at grit and perseverance as part of the human psyche. I would recommend this book to anybody who is interested in the field of psychology, or anybody who wants to learn more about how their mind works in general.

Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance by Angela Duckworth is available to check out from the Mission Viejo Library. It is also available to download for free from Libby.

Tuesdays with Morrie by Mitch Albom – A short overview

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Tuesdays with Morrie is a moving non-fiction book about Mitch Albom’s favorite professor, Morrie Schwartz giving Mitch a “final class” on lessons in life. It is a book about how to navigate love, work, community, and family about how to forgive and lastly, it talks about the fear of aging and death.

In Morrie’s deteriorating health, he and Mitch met every Tuesday and talked about everything from the world, to feeling sorry for yourself, and from marriage to modern culture. One big topic that was personally moving was their talk about regrets. One of life’s biggest regrets tends to be not living life to its fullest. Morrie advised Mitch not to chase after money like Mitch had been doing, and instead, to focus on his life, and family, and to have an impact on his community and live for a meaningful purpose to not regret his life when his time eventually came.

Another piece of advice given to avoid regret was to forgive. Talking about his personal experience with his friend, Morrie advises Mitch not to make the same mistake as he did and to not focus on his pride or vanity and then regret his chance to forgive. Before anything, however, he talks about how you should forgive, understand, and be truthful to yourself. They even talk about how in modern culture, people run after money and forget to find their own opinions, and desires, forever running after society’s perception of them.

Finally, although sometimes hard to face, death is an inevitable truth that was talked about unflinchingly in this book, and as Morrie said, “Death ends a life, not a relationship.” “Truth is, once you learn how to die, you learn how to live.” This book completely changed my perspective on life and death. Many don’t really believe – quite understandably – the inevitability of their death until it’s too late, and to really live, Morrie says, you must accept the fact and ask yourself that if today was your last day, are you really doing everything you want?

Overall, I found this book to be really meaningful and life-changing. It gave me new standards to live by, and I would recommend it to everyone interested because it includes many lessons that I think could fit all ages.

Tuesdays with Morrie by Mitch Albom is available to check out from the Mission Viejo Library. It is also available to download for free from Libby.

Crying in H Mart: How Food Connects Us

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This summer, I had to choose a memoir to read for my AP Lang course. My friend and I chose Crying in H Mart so we could read and discuss the book together. Crying in H Mart has become one of my new favorite books.

When Michelle Zauner finds out her mother has been diagnosed with cancer, she puts her life in Philadelphia on hold to be with her mother. Told plainly and honestly, Zauner describes growing up Korean American, her strained relationship with her mother, and dealing with grief. At the center of it all is her and her mother’s shared love of food.

Reading this memoir was deeply thought-provoking as an Asian American. In the United States, when you can’t go back to your home country, food is the easiest way to connect to your culture. After all, what is the one thing all humans have to do? Eat. Our cultural recipes connect us to our ancestors and allow us to preserve the past. After Zauner’s mother’s death, she cooks Korean dish after Korean dish. All her life, she has never felt Korean enough. Cooking is how she reconnects to her heritage and her memories with her mother. Michelle Zauner provoked me to think about how food fits into my life and how it connects me to my heritage, especially when I feel torn between so many cultures. I know I’m not alone in the sentiment that I don’t feel Asian enough for other Asians and I don’t feel American enough for other Americans.

I am of Pakistani, Burmese, and Indian heritage. I have never visited these countries but when I eat my grandma’s shrimp biryani, or I slurp the broth of the Kaukswe my mom learned how to make from her dad, I feel as if I am home. Food is what ties my family together. We were all born in different countries: Burma, Pakistan, India, and America, but when we all sit down at the dinner table, we are all tied together by the same string. Food.

Crying in H Mart by Michelle Zauner is available to check out from the Mission Viejo Library. It is also available to download for free from Libby.

Crying in H-Mart by Michelle Zauner

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I don’t usually read nonfiction. I’m more of a fantasy, love-story, novel, kind of person. But starting this year, my first assignment was to read a memoir. Any memoir of our choosing, so long it was about overcoming adversity. At first, I struggled to find a memoir that really interested me, but somewhere in the back of my mind, this one came to mind. I must have seen or heard about this memoir somewhere because once I found it, I immediately purchased it. 

Crying in H-Mart by Michelle Zauner is a memoir in which Zauner must deal with the grief of losing her mother from cancer and learn to come to terms with her own identity. Zauner recalls her memories of when she was younger, how she had once looked up to and thought so highly of her mother to when she grew and began to resent her instead. Zauner lists disagreements she had with her mother and her own personal battles she faced throughout high school. However, it is only when she is through college and away from her family does she get the call that her mother has cancer. As she watches her mother fade, Zauner worries that losing her could also cause her to lose much more. 

This memoir really made me think about my own life. I had never really once thought about what would happen when my parents are gone. It’s not a fun topic to think about and definitely harder to talk about. But hearing Zauner’s personal story, it seemed to connect to my life in a way. I am a musician myself and of Asian descent. However, what I really connected to were the family dynamics. Specifically the connection Zauner had with her mom. I’ve had my fair share of disagreements with my mom, many talks and exchanged opinions. But I’m always–still am–looking for her approval, her advice, and her support. My mom is the one I go to and have true heart-to-heart conversations and without her, I might lose myself–just as Zauner nearly did. In losing her mother, Zauner had a hard time finding her identity–in both her culture and path. Without the advice and ties to her mother, Zauner felt lost in what to do until she could find her again through other means. I’m scared to lose my mom; whenever I need to go to someone, the first person that comes to mind is usually my mom. So without her, I may feel just as lost, but perhaps with this perspective, I can find ways to accept the loss and carry on when it inevitably arrives.

I also connected to the familial ties. I usually see my dad’s side of the family since they live here in the United States. My mom’s side lives in the Philippines–like Zauner’s mom’s side lives in Korea. I don’t see them much and when I do, it’s way harder for me to warm up to them. But in reading Zauner’s experience, it is important to connect to those you can to help cope and grieve. And that while I may not see my mom’s side of the family much, they will come to my aid just as I would for them. 

Crying in H-Mart opened up my perspective, showed what my future could look like, and helped me raise my appreciation for my family, friends and the ones I care about. While we take each other for granted at times, this memoir has helped me remember that nothing is forever and they will leave someday. The only thing we can do is spend time with them, love them, and keep them in our hearts and memories. Crying in H-Mart is a fantastic true story on Michelle Zauner’s struggles and overcoming them. It is one that I found myself relating to and one I will highly recommend to everyone.

-Nicole R.

Crying in H Mart by Michelle Zauner is available to checkout from the Mission Viejo Library. It is also available to download for free from Libby.

Book Review: On the Edge of Survival by Spike Walker

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On the Edge of Survival, written by Spike Walker is a compelling story based on a real-life rescue mission on one of Alaska’s most treacherous seas. The book primarily focuses on a dangerous operation where two H-60 Jayhawk helicopters are tasked to rescue eighteen crew members of a stranded Malaysian cargo vessel during an intense storm. However, during their attempts to save the remaining members, one of the helicopters gets hit by a ferocious wave, forcing it to plummet into the freezing waters. With only a limited amount of time before the vessel completely submerges, will the rescuers be able to save them all?

Walker’s storytelling provided great portrayals of the dangers faced both by the rescuers and the people they are trying to save. Throughout this narrative, he provides various descriptions of the severe weather, the life-threatening challenges of the rescue operation, and the emotional impact of everyone involved in it. 

Overall, I found On the Edge of Survival to be quite a thrilling book to read during my spare time… although I found the majority parts of the narrative to be a bit confusing due to my unfamiliarity with the technical and mechanical details of aviation. But, despite this, I still believe that Walker effectively captured the bravery and perseverance of the rescue teams, and thoroughly carried out the message of how it ultimately led to their success. I would highly recommend this to anyone that holds deep interests in sea rescues and aviation. 

On the Edge of Survival by Spike Walker is available to check out from the Mission Viejo Library.