My Favorite Quotes and Why

Quotes are often discarded and ignored, seen as meaningless words that are repeated uselessly. However, there are many quotes that are actually quite inspirational and can be applied to anyone’s daily life. Here are some of my favorite quotes, along with explanations and analysis.

“Everything you want is on the other side of fear” – This quote suggests that growth and success cannot be achieved without facing our fears. Hesitation and discomfort is what stops us from achieving what we want. By stepping out of our comfort zones and taking action, we are able to reach our goals. Taking risks is the first step in growth.

“Don’t be afraid of losing people, be afraid of losing yourself” – As the quote indicates, it is not our jobs to worry what others think or believe. Let people assume what they want to, because what truly matters is your own personal opinion. Changing yourself just because of another person’s opinion is harmful and unauthentic to your identity.

“Hatred is the poison we drink, hoping the other person will die” – This quote compares hatred to poison metaphorically; poison hurts the one who consumes it, just as hatred harms us. This quote indicates that holding onto anger or resentment hurts ourselves emotionally and mentally. It highlights the irrationality of hatred, showing that although we may think our anger punishes the other person, it only damages us.

“Nothing changes if nothing changes” – This quote is repetitive and seemingly ridiculous. But if you stop to think about it, it accurately represents the world. So many of us complain about problems, but do not actively try to fix them. Nothing changes, if nothing changes. We cannot improve anything if we do not do anything about it. You can either continue to live a life you are just okay with, or you can take responsibility and live a life you truly enjoy.

“you don’t meet anyone by accident” – Nobody in your life is meaningless. Even those that harm you, even those that seem to distract you from your goals. Everyone you meet has a role in your story and an impact in your journey. Each person teaches you a new lesson and can help you improve yourself. It is important to understand that interactions with others are valuable.

“It won’t happen overnight. But if you quit, it won’t happen at all” – Small progress is still progress. Oftentimes, we lose motivation and interest and begin to drift away from our goals because it seems unachievable. But this quote reminds us that anything will bring you closer to success, except for stopping. You cannot achieve anything by quitting.

Favorite Book Quotes from 2021

I read 78 books in 2021 and here are some quotes that stuck with me.

In, The Invisible Life of Addie LaRue, V.E. Schwab wrote, “Being forgotten, she thinks, is a bit like going mad. You begin to wonder what is real, if you are real. After all, how can a thing be real if it cannot be remembered?” This book had so many moments that just made you think about life and what it truly means to have people you love. Addie had to live her life without those meaningful relationships, battling the thought that she isn’t good enough to be remembered.

“She’d laughed, and if he could have bottled the sound and gotten drunk on it every night, he would have. It terrified him.” ― Leigh Bardugo, Six of Crows. Kaz and Inej have battled their demons throughout this book and had to learn how to love again. Inej and him have had such a complicated but incredible partnership for the ages. Their love goes farther than just words.

Leigh Bardugo wrote in her book, Crooked Kingdom, “I have been made to protect you. Even in death, I will find a way.” If there was one word you had to use to describe how I felt while reading this scene it would be devastated. Matthias and Nina’s love for each other will forever stay, even after death. They are the definition of soulmates.

“Just because someone hurts you doesn’t mean you can simply stop loving them. It’s not a person’s actions that hurt the most. It’s love. If there was no love attached to the action, the pain would be a little easier to bear.”― Colleen Hoover, It Ends with Us. This book was an emotional rollercoaster taking us through the pain Lily survived. She was so strong, surviving an abusive relationship that shattered anyone who read this book into a million pieces.

“We’re more than our mistakes. We’re more than what people expect of us.”― Marieke Nijkamp, This Is Where It Ends. Mistakes don’t define who we are. We grow from them and become a better version of ourselves. People expect you to be perfect when in reality no one is. We are the only ones allowed to define ourselves and who we are on the inside.

“But there’s comfort in knowing that when your plans fall apart, you can survive. That the worst thing imaginable can happen, but you can get through it.”― Jenn Bennett, Starry Eyes. This quote hit me hard because I am a planner and I don’t like to leave things up to fate. But, it made me realize that I can get through it and survive even if all your plans fall apart.

“For so many years I lived in constant terror of myself. Doubt had married my fear and moved into my mind, where it built castles and ruled kingdoms and reigned over me, bowing my will to its whispers until I was little more than an acquiescing peon, too terrified to disobey, too terrified to disagree. I had been shackled, a prisoner in my own mind. But finally, finally, I have learned to break free.”― Tahereh Mafi, Ignite Me. Juliette found herself throughout this series and learned how to truly be herself without the doubt of not being enough.

Holly Black in, The Queen of Nothing, wrote, “Maybe it isn’t the worst thing to want to be loved, even if you’re not. Even if it hurts. Maybe being human isn’t always being weak.” Jude battled her thoughts of hating being human. She grew to know that being human doesn’t mean you’re weak and that you’re allowed to love.

“I’m starting to wonder if this is what being in love is. Being okay with ripping yourself to shreds, so the other person can stay whole.”― Ali Hazelwood, The Love Hypothesis. Love means sacrifice. Sacrificing yourself for someone else, someone you love.

“The difference between the ugly side of love and the beautiful side of love is that the beautiful side is much lighter. It makes you feel like you’re floating. It lifts you up. Carries you.” ― Colleen Hoover, Ugly Love. Some parts of love are beautiful but some are ugly. The beautiful side can consume you and make you feel like it’s worth it to get through the ugly side to find the beautiful side.

In November 9, Colleen Hoover wrote, “One of the things I always try to remind myself of is that everyone has scars,” she says. “A lot of them are even worse than mine. The only difference is that mine are visible and most people’s aren’t.” Some scars are visible and show other people the pain that you’ve survived. The scars that aren’t visible are shown when people open up to another person they trust. Both kinds of scars show how strong each person is to survive and get to this moment.

She wasn’t a robot or a disabled autistic girl. She was herself. She was enough. She could be anything. She could make herself into anything. She could prove everyone wrong.” ― Helen Hoang, The Kiss Quotient. Stella doesn’t let autism define her. She alone knows that she is enough and can do anything she dreams of.

Every single one of these books have really changed me and the way I look at love and life.

-Kaitlyn D.